Optimism: when life buries you in a massive pile of crap, hoping for the best may be the only prayer you have to go on. I hear stories of victims buried in rubble who asphyxiate themselves from panicking out of fear of never being found moments before rescuers arrive on scene. It's not just naivety or simplemindedness to be optimistic. It's a pragmatic regard for a bitter truth: to make it, you have to be willing to hope for things that aren't promised.
Marriage: people used to be excited about getting married and I miss that. all that's left is a cold sweat and a bitter taste: marriage just seems to be one big disappointment. Marriage itself is not the problem - marriage can be a sweet thing. When you're deep in love, there's nothing you'd want more than to spend the rest of your life with that person. The whole commitment-complex thing isn't even on your mind because you are so wildly in love. In fact, its most liberating to look into someone's eyes and let them peer into your soul with a promise that says "you are the only one for me."
And that is precisely why marriages have become the unfortunate formality it is today - it no longer holds it's sacred promise because few can wield the power of such weighty words. It's hard to honestly say - or at least to convince someone - that we're committed when we carry the physical and emotional luggage of lovers past. The quintessential virgin of body and heart is a secret kept from the reckless of heart. In fact, I'd venture to say that abstinence isn't lame at all. It's a diamond in the rough - a sign of someone who's said their share of "no's" to make their "yes" so much more worth it. It gives you something that you can - and should - give someone only once: a promise.
"I know who you are. I love you, and I always will." Everyone deserves to hear that from someone.
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